I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.Dating for mature singles can sound like something out of your worst nightmare – maybe you didn’t plan on having a divorce, or breaking up with someone at the age of 40, 50, or 60. Yet many people, who find themselves single later in life, once they embrace it, see it as the opportunity they had been waiting for to turn their lives around and find what they’d truly want.Joining a mature singles dating site might sound even worse, simply because you never wanted to. They set their minds on reaching a new career goal, start exercising, do a hobby they’ve always dreamed of and joining dating sites for mature singles to find the love they’ve always wanted.
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
We take entire responsibility for the many important encounters that take place each.
And we are happy to know that most of these transform into happy families after a while. All you have to do is to fill up a registration form online.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.