After a rough breakup last January, I was sad and single in the Big Apple.
Valentine’s Day was approaching, and this city of more than eight million people was feeling oddly lonely.
Online dating is inarguably an easy way to find a mate, but there’s still no guarantee that it’s more successful than organic dating.
If you look at the numbers studied and generated by various online dating sites, the probability of finding your true love turns out to be just as likely as it is in real life.
Experts say online dating sites see a huge traffic increase between Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
With the number of visitors these sites get each month, that increase is pretty significant: Some current estimates report between 10.5 and 23.8 million unique visitors per month for two major dating sites.
If you’re a casual online dater, there’s a chance my insights and evaluations don’t apply to you. So as you read, remember: I’m talking about the pursuit of the long-term. As ridiculous as some of these sites are, they prove that online dating helps you hone in on exactly what you’re looking for in a partner. But I’m worried the guys on the free sites will be creeps.” –Cassie, 26 “It’s hard to know if a girl is taking it seriously.” “Which part? Is she really looking for something casual, or did she say that because she thinks she’s supposed to? The girls are way more serious on Match.” –David, 24″ “I go through phases [with online dating]. Don’t fill out your profile based on what you think someone wants you to say.
If you’ve had a different experience or want to share your story, please do so (nicely! I think girls assume guys don’t take online dating seriously, so they act too cool for it, which is a waste of time. I do, at least.” –James, 23 “I’m addicted to online dating. I’m always running into guys like, “Where do I know you from? My account is deactivated right now, because things got busy at work. If your ideal Friday night is to make dinner with friends and play Mario Kart because it’s hard to go out after a long week of work (may or may not be an excerpt from my now-deactivated Ok Cupid profile), put it out there.
Not some guy I text when I’m drunk, but a real person I love and share a dog with.
” with overconfidence:: ::tries not to act embarrassed so that you’re more comfortable with it:: Yes, I met my boyfriend online, and the world didn’t end.
Of that 10%, a whopping 23% have met a spouse or long-term partner. When you’re genuinely interested in someone’s interests, you’ll have plenty of things to talk about on your first date, and the second date, and the third…
You don’t have to settle for your mom’s friend’s nephew or the creepy guy who keeps eyeing you at the coffee shop downtown.
You can literally generate a person that you would actually be interested in!
To be clear, I’m assessing online dating from the perspective of finding a serious relationship. I was worried about being lied to, being solicited for sex and going out with guys that weren’t as cute in person as they appeared online. You can find someone who is interested in your interests. There are really, really specific dating websites out there. When taken seriously, online dating is a great way to meet someone—but that’s just my opinion. I asked friends and coworkers ages 23-34 tell me what they think. My personal experience skews my opinions of online dating very positive, so I wanted to be inclusive of other opinions as well. “I want to try online dating, but I don’t know where to start.