On the other hand, you can’t refuse to chase, either. And if they’re attractive, well, she’s not going to wait on you.Women expect men to take the lead in dating, and unless her attraction level for you is through the roof, waiting for her is really just giving other guys an opportunity to swoop in ahead of you. Fortunately, there’s is a solution to this catch-22, and that solution is push pull routines.You remain unpredictable, and refuse to fall into a “courting” frame.
My focus here is on the 80/20 principle applied to the push-pull dynamic. What I say here is NOT for absolute newbies, who don’t yet have their fundamentals down (body language, tonality, and basic inner game). A quickie definition of push-pull straight from the pen of Swingcat: We’ll be filling this out as we go along. While you can succeed using almost any combination of push and pull (e.g., 80% push-20% pull, 50% push-50% pull), This applies only if the following also hold: a.When you chase someone, you just get them to run away faster.Chasing doesn’t work because chasing subcommunicates lower value: if you’re chasing her, that must mean she’s higher value than you, otherwise she would be chasing you.He was everything that could capture my attention: chiseled good looks, piercing blue eyes, a strawberry blonde crew-cut and the fact that he was in the closet and desperate to keep me his secret — which I was always drawn t,o as I was a never-ending glutton for punishment.Most of all, I was sickeningly obsessed with his own self-obsession.If you still don’t know what good BL&T looks, sounds, and feels like, check out The Social Man on You Tube for some videos on that. It’s for guys who want to know what it’s like to live in the top 10%, or higher, of men in this world. The man has good fundamentals (good body language, tonality, tight inner game and is hence non-needy, etc.).