Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?Here’s what we’ve learned about the most successful online dating photos from our research, data and matching teams: The Amount Counts We pulled stats to date from 2013, and people who uploaded 4 or more photos received the most inquiries (communication) from their matches.Interestingly, women tend to post more pics than men (at a ratio of 6.4 vs. Men also reach out and initiate communication 67% of the time.A medium shot (like the girl in the backpack) is the optimum choice and gets the most action, as you can actually get a good sense of the person’s body type (they aren’t hiding anything) as opposed to an extreme close up shot, which gets very little interest from matches. Matches who received the least amount of communication were those who included a very narrow portrait photo, where it looked as if they had clearly cut out the person next to them. Then upload blurry, poor quality or super small images.