It is a package deal in which you get him, the mama and the kid; and the baggage that comes with that is real and shouldn’t be played down.I sincerely sympathise with these desperate women (you’d have to be terribly desperate to date a baby daddy) who get involved with daddies and go out of their way to impress boo and his kids. I especially pity the women who date serial baby daddies.So, if I had to bet on who would come out on top, the challenge or me, I’m betting on myself every single time.But even a woman who bets on herself has to know her limits.
His children will always be his first priority, rightly so. Very best case senerio is that he has supervised visits because he hasn't been an involved father, so the child doesn't know him well. I could not respect a man that had supervised visits with his child under any circumstance other than the mom making false abuse claims that were later proven to be false. That's best case scenario, IMO, and even then I'd run. And you do have young kids to think about, so it's understandable. I have young kids and would not want to risk their well-being and my custody for any guy. Maybe they don't have a CO and she brings the kid over so she can dictate the schedule and control him?You say you don’t ask him what goes on at home because he’d bring it up if he wanted to.It sounds like it’s time to ask all of the big questions, even if you’re afraid of the answers. How long does his ex think he’s going to stick around? Baby daddies are high up on my “men not to date” list, right next to ex-convicts and drug addicts!